Holy moly! I was prepping for what I anticipated would be the effects of a major storm system…loss of power, some flooding and possible downed trees. When I awoke the next morning I learned that the damage around us was on a much larger scale, with the loss of entire neighborhoods to floods and fires, businesses destroyed, and the tragic loss of dozens of lives. Resources such as power, sewerage, fresh food, gas, warm water, and personal possessions have been lost for many. A tragedy of this magnitude momentarily awakens us from the delusion of control and stability and reminds us of the reality of impermanence. A scary yet life evoking gift.
This week we are reminded of the daily support and love we receive that often goes unnoticed, and are reminded of the value of our inner strength as we once again take meaningful action.
Dancing the Two-Step:
Step One: Find Your Personal Power
Leave the questions of, “Why me?” or “Why now?” alone. Ask, “What now?” and “How must I grow?” These questions challenge us to act right now and to look within for resources, powers, and capabilities sitting dormant within us, waiting to be expressed.
Try this now: Write down 3 things you can do to improve your situation.
Later today: Tell someone your actions and when you plan to complete them. Then do it!
Step Two: Tune into Faith
My faith in the “great mystery” serves as a healthy friend. Faith is not bound to religion. It is an embodied feeling of being ok even if everything on the outside is not. It entails surrendering to the fact that we cannot understand or control everything. When the world seems loud, broken, and feels full of dreaded possibilities and unknown answers, faith sits quietly in the deep recesses of our being. She is calm, unshakeable, assured, and says something like, “You don’t have to understand. You cannot understand, but everything is ok. You are loved.” Faith can seem most elusive when tragedy hits close to home. You have to choose to pause and choose to change the controlling and seemingly real drama that you feel in your body.
Choose to rewire your neuro-network with small humble steps.
Tuning into faith means calming your sympathetic nervous system (fight, flight, or freeze) and landing back at home base, your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest). It is here that the mind/body works in a peaceful effective manner to create successful long-term outcomes.
Try This 3 Minute routine (Less time than checking facebook. You can do it!)
1) Breath and Attention
- Take a deep expansive inhale through your nose (75% full) for a count of 3
- Hold your breath for 5 (keeping your shoulders relaxed)
- Exhale as slowly and as controlled as you can.
- Begin to tune into the quiet space that sits between your inhale and your exhale.
- Repeat for 5 times.
2) Gratitude and Feeling
- Write down or say out-loud 5 things you are grateful for.
- How does gratitude make you feel? (Calm? Peaceful? Relaxed? Excited? )
- Feeling brings you back to the present and gratitude brings attention to what is good and what is possible.
Personal power and faith may not return what has been taken, but they lend to our ability to: 1. accept what is 2. receive the gifts that are here now 3. act for the sake of transformation and growth.
“Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart
Try to love the questions themselves.
Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given
Because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is to live everything.
Live the questions now.
Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it,
Live along some distant day into the answers.”
Rainer Maria Rilke
My respect to the unknown and love to the community at large,
Sarah Tacy Tangredi